What a couple's sleeping position says about their relationship...
Corinne Sweet, a relationship psychologist says, "During sleep, you cannot fake your body language. This is the time when you are honest, vulnerable and your sleeping position can reveal a lot about your relationship."
1. The spoon
The most position among couples. Couples who usually use this sleeping position has been married or together for three to five years. The position gives a sense of physical closeness, more like a comforting safety shell instead of intimate.
2. The honeymoon hug
This is the most intimate positions. This position mostly occurs when there is intense feelings between the couple and that is usually at the early stages of a relationship or right after being intimate. There are also times that the couple is so in love with each other that this position can occur even in later stages of their relationship. This sleeping position also means that they depend on each other too much.
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3. Like shingles on a roof
Another sleeping position that is popular. One partner is on their back while the other has their head on the person’s shoulder. This means the person who is resting their head on the other’s shoulder is dependent and compliant. Though this sleeping position shows a lot of ego and entitlement there is actually a lot of trust between the couple. This position gives a sense of protection and increases the strength of the relationship.
4. The sweetheart’s cradle
This sleeping position is almost similar to the ‘Shingles on a roof’ position but this is more intimate. What’s the difference, you ask? Well, instead of resting one’s head on the other person’s shoulder, this sleeping position is when a person almost holds the other person. It is like half their body is on the other person. This sleeping position exhibits a sense of safety shell at the same time being caring.
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5. Loosely tethered
This sleeping position may show otherwise, but there is affection between the couple. In the beginning of any relationship there is a lot of physical closeness but as time goes by it often happens that the couple needs their own space without compromising on the affection that is still present between them. So this position is very similar to the spoon but with a little distance. It shows trust, comfort, independence and most of all, balance.
6. The leg hug
This position can really represent two things. First, it could mean that a couple isn't entirely comfortable showing physical affection, so it comes off as it "accidentally" happened that a foot touched another one. When you are sleeping, you rarely know what you are doing. Second, it can be the complete opposite. It could "suggest familiarity, comfort and a daring quality as well, almost like a secret code."
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7. The pursuit
This is basically spooning, but one person chases the other. Imagine that someone retreats to the other side of the bed with their back turned to you. The Pursuit is when you approach that person and spoon them. This, too, can mean two things. The resulting spoon, according to Samuel Dunkell, can be labeled as "illegal Spooning" because the person retreats and wants their space. Alternatively, the person distancing themselves wants to be pursued, which becomes an invitation or not. Yes, it can be difficult to understand, but that's part of being in a relationship, as you begin to learn your partner's body language.
8. Zen style
This position is most prominent in a couple that has been together for quite some time. As time goes on, there tends to be a need to re-establish independence and personal space, especially since closeness is established and not as exploratory. The Zen is a compromise between connectedness and independence, creating a physical contact without clinging.
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9. The cliffhanger
This position is a lot like The Pursuit, but this time there's no chase, as the other person doesn't wait for it. It's basically like a "cliffhanger": you're left wondering what's happening. You'll begin to wonder whether there's something going wrong, why the person is withdrawing: Anger? Sadness? Resentment? This is when you have to analyze your significant other and see if that person really needs their space. Over time, they'll roll back. The other side to the position is that your significant other is comfortable enough to know they'd rather get a comfortable night's sleep than snuggle and listen to you snore.
10. The crab
This is another potentially ambiguous sleeping position, one with multiple meanings. If you're currently going through a rough time in your relationship or have had some disagreements, this may be your or your partner's way of signifying that there are problems, creating a need and a way of pulling away from each other without acknowledging it. It could also mean that you're hurting. Just like how you change positions when you're sitting, you create new positions when you're in bed. Or, really, you or your partner could be creative sleepers.