The risk of divorce based on the years of marriage!
When we get married we think it is forever. That our feelings and emotions are strong and enough to conquer the world as a couple and that our feeling will never change. Of course, people who have arranged marriages can have some fears at the beginning, but still, they never think about a divorce. However, according to scientists the risk of getting divorced changes with the marriage length. If you want to know when it is higher, just read our article. At the end, we also posted the main signs which herald the end of the relationship.
1-2 years of marriage: high risk level
Although it would seem that at the beginning of marriage everything should be fine, unfortunately in many cases it does not happen. Couples often discover themselves after marriage when they live together and must make common decisions. It turns out that when marriage is badly chosen then most often it comes to cheating. According to a survey conducted by the Fatherly Portal, as many as 20 percents of marriages break up during the initial period of marriage. Of the 10 thousand examined divorces, men said they were willing to cheat at the beginning of their marriage.
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3 - 4 years of marriage: the average level of risk
During this period, the divorce rate falls because, after a couple of years after the wedding, couples are most likely to decide to have a child. And owning a child makes the relationship more meaningful, more stable and more responsive. Of course, the child is not the main reason that the relationship will last longer, sometimes when something is not working, it does not work. In addition, for some people, even the desired parenting becomes a load of stress, and the child often receives the attention much more than a man. Therefore, to avoid risk, at that time you need to take care of the relationship very much.
5-8 years of marriage: high risk level
It is known not from today that many couples face the so-called "7 years" crisis. It is no different in the case of marriage. According to psychologists, this happens due to the decline in quality and satisfaction of having a relationship. Statistics show that the most marriages break down in the 7th or 8th year of marriage. This line is changing, because the pace of life is faster and the divorce procedure is not so easy. Often, people try to delay a divorce, because they are afraid of a division of assets.
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9 - 15 years of marriage: low risk level
In these years of marriage, the quality of the relationship is definitely improving, which is influenced by many factors. First of all, children cease to be babies and require less attention from their parents. Because of that, the couple can take care of themselves and their pleasures, and the risk of divorce is reduced. Statistics show that this is a period when people have become accustomed to being in a relationship and are able to concentrate on their own or their career. Everything is normalizing and good arranged.
16 - 20 years of marriage: average risk level
Nowadays, when women are getting married mostly at the age of 23-30 years, it can be assumed that at the age of 50 people already have about twenty years of marriage experience. It turns out that after this time partners are looking for some changes, news, alternatives. They want to break the routine and try something different in their life. This is a perfect moment for them to make some changes because they have already stabilized their life and career and they can get more. It may be either with the current partner or unfortunately after the divorce with a new one. In the US, there is even the term "gray divorce" to describe such a situation.
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According to the American psychologist John Gottman, who has been studying couples for 40 years, there are four behaviors that foreshadow the breakup. The first is a contempt. It means laughing at a partner, calling him with insulting names, or not accepting a partner's opinion, and not caring about his decisions. It is a sign that one partner feels more important than another. In that case, we need to show that we hurt another person and remind ourselves why we were in love with him before.
Each situation, behavior, and a decision of the partner causes the other to irritation and anger. In addition, everything that the other does is criticized and badly evaluated. This causes the "attacked" partner to lose self-esteem and become more and more introverted. People isolate themselves and their relationship becomes more weak and unstable. Remember that in the relationships are important compromise and conversation; if your partner does not know something, show him how to do it. And talk to each other about your needs and expectations.
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This behavior means that the partner thinks he has done something wrong or inappropriate, and automatically starts to defend himself, and in addition, he is doing it violently and aggressively. He can then shout, "It's not my fault!" As a consequence, the spouses shout at each other, argue and hurt themselves. You should remember that in a relationship honesty is important, therefore, for the future keep in mind that it is better to admit to error and take responsibility for it. You can ask for help and together you will face the problems.
In a relationship not always everything goes smoothly. But many partners prefer hiding their emotions instead of quarrels and pretend to be indifferent to the partner's behavior. They do not blame the other person and ignore his words. But remember that the problem will not disappear if it is not explained, and if we do not try to solve it, it may return more strong and more serious.