"I thought it was the end of the world, but time heals wounds" - The experience one of our readers went through and how she dealt with it!
In many of our articles, you can find large numbers of tips on how to love a man, how to be attractive to him and how to make your relationship last a long time and without problems one. But we want our articles to be not only a tip for the future but to help you with your current situation. In fact, every article in this field and matters meet with a response from you, which is very important to us. You express your opinion through comments and through private messages to us…
We cannot reply to each and every one of your opinions and comments, although of course, they deserve every kind of attention. In each of your problems, we would like to help you as best as we can. And because sometimes it is enough to just be heard, we will present the story of one of our readers. Maybe in her history, you will find your problems and see how you can find the remedy for them. Based on her words you can go through some difficult problems.
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Our, let say an anonymous reader writes: "Three years ago my husband told me he wanted a divorce, and his words were like a blow, I did not expect it at all. I thought we were a happy couple, with a nice house, cars, and dreams of having a baby. We were married for 5 years, but we knew each other for 7. I tried to find out if he has someone else or how I could fix it, but he only said: "It does not matter any longer".
"I was crying for days. I stopped taking care of myself and locked myself at home. So far, it was just him and our home, what mattered, since that day my world collapsed, and I thought that it was all my fault. Today, I know that every despair passes faster than we can suppose, and the husband cannot be the only reason for women's existence. Going back in the shape took some time for me, so maybe someone else will learn something from my mistakes."
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1. Cry it out
"At first there was such a big shock that I felt nothing, but then I cried all day and every day. I couldn't stop because everything reminded me of him and I was still worried about what would happen to me. Then I became angry with him that he had destroyed our world and I have decided that he did not deserve more of my tears. In fact, it turned out that it was like a cleansing therapy, my emotions had stabilized, and I gave myself the chance to cry it all out."
2. Get rid of illusions
“Immediately after parting, I thought it was a stupid joke or he would come back because he really loves me and will understand that he has done wrong. I did not listen to others because I still hoped that everything would be as it once was. I did not allow myself to hear the truth because illusions were less painful. But now I know that the sooner you accept the situation as it is, the sooner you return to good shape. Do not expect something that will not happen and ask why something happened. Even the hardest truth is better than lying to yourself.”
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3. Stop thinking about the past
"Although it seems difficult and impossible to do, it is best to stop thinking and talk about the past. What was before, leave it behind. Your quarrels with him, constant questions what was the reason for his decision and attempts to convince him to see how better it could be- is the waste of your time, and completely does not change the situation we find ourselves in. For him, it means not much, and it only brings pain to you. Rather, think about how to prepare for the upcoming divorce, the division of property and moving out..."
4. Think about divorce as a chance
"To come to such a conclusion takes a while, it took me a long time, about over a year. At the beginning, the breakup meant a downfall to me and a loss or my failure. I thought it was the end of everything and nothing would wait for me anymore. But then I understood that I have to build my dreams and reality anew and it is a chance for me to have something new and exciting. Something different which does not necessarily mean bad! People are afraid of changes, but in each of them, one can find a positive side. Fortunately, I succeeded. "
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5. Do not isolate yourself
"When we're in a relationship, we often focus on the partner, forgetting about other people around us, and that was my mistake too. But it turned out that when I was in this terrible situation, I still had wonderful friends and family who did not leave me alone and who were there for me all the time. Even when I did not listen to them, they were around to hear me or simply hold my hand. I appreciated this after time and now I know that every man counts and that no one copes with their problems alone”.
6. Believe that it will be better, even if you think it is impossible
At the beginning, everyone thinks that parting is the end of everything and the pain will never pass. Crying, depression, panic are the emotions that accompanied me for a long time and I thought they would stay with me forever. But even if it sounds obvious, time really heals wounds. Today, I again learn to trust men, to dream of having a partner and family. And again I see that I deserve the best!