Have you ever seen a purple butterfly in a hospital? Check out what it means
Giving birth is undoubtedly an emotional roller coaster, whether all is well or something goes wrong. Seeing the newborn for the first time is something that can make anyone cry. It’s a very special, unforgettable and emotional time for every mum and dad. However, if something is not quite right, there is only one feeling that every parent has - the whole world suddenly ends.
The most important during such moments are closeness, understanding and support that every person needs.
This story is a great lesson of sensitivity for everyone.
Just after giving birth Millie was looking at her sleeping daughter Callie. At some point she was approached by mum of the newborn twins.
We are sure that the woman did not want to offend the feelings of Millie, but her comment caused a number of consequences. Seeing a tired woman (as she interpreted it) and her baby, the woman said: "You're lucky you don’t have twins." Sadly, her words were not entirely true.
It turns out that Millie was also pregnant with twins but unfortunately Callie's twin sister had died a few hours after birth due to a tragic brain condition.
What the woman had interpreted as tiredness after delivery, it was actually a great sorrow and grief after losing her daughter. This woman couldn’t know and her comment was not intended to hurt Millie, but of course it made her walk out the room crying. "I had no strength to tell her what had happened," says Millie.
And if the woman had known her story? Probably she would not have made such a statement then, but more likely surrounded Millie with compassion, love and understanding. This situation made Millie to create a symbol that is becoming more universal and is being used in more and more hospitals.
It is the symbol of purple butterfly. Millie has created and spread this symbol among the coincidental persons so they can also be aware of the situation in which some families are.
Now, a sticker of purple butterfly on the newborn’s cot makes everybody aware that this family is going through a tragedy and they lost at least one of their children.
Thus Millie wanted to avoid reliving the trauma again and again during conversations with medical personnel and others. Butterflies are already in use in some hospitals in the UK, but the idea is spreading across the whole world.
Millie understands how little people can do for all those families that go through such a difficult time. Nobody can relieve their pain, but it is possible (with the symbol of purple butterfly) make others aware and make them come with greater care and compassion.
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