8 Tips that can save your long-distance relationship
Being in a relationship and managing to take it to the next level from a temporary one to a permanent and long lasting one is something that people mostly struggle with, now imagine if it is a long distance relationship! Not sure if you have ever been in one but the chances of a long distance relationship working is near zero. However, despite all this, people still want to try it to see if they have a chance or not! There are so many things that need to be considered and paid attention to if you are going to be with someone who is serving in the army. Here are some tips that can help you.
Getting to still stay in touch with your partner while you are in a long distance relationship is something that needs a lot of effort and you need to make sure to at least have that one day talk thing! James Preece, a Dating Guru, says: "Make sure they're being consistent in what they're telling you. [If you're worried], get them to tell you about their nights out, show an over interest... if they're [overly] defensive, they [might] not be with who they say they are with."
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Consistency needs to be in almost everything! And the one in behavior is the most important one. Since you no longer are there with your partner, you are not sure what is happening and how his day was! The only way to get to know is if he shares them with you! James says: "Nobody wants to be lonely so it's normal to find new friends when you're away but big behavioral changes should ring alarm bells. If he isn't telling you about his new hobbies and new friends, it starts to build a rift between you two."
3. The honeymoon phase
If you have just started your relationship and you were forced to get step into a new game of a long distance relationship, things can still be fine since you are in the honeymoon phase which will take maximum 3 months but after that, if this happens, you need to talk! "The honeymoon phase lasts three months, you'll be sending cheeky messages during that time too if you feel differently after that time period and he isn't talking to you in the same way then that should ring the alarm bells."
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4. Future talk
Talking about the future of the relationship is something inevitable that will happen in any relationship and if it is not there, there is a problem. You need to have something to look forward to! James Preece says: "If he isn't talking about the future or organizing future plans with you this is a red flag. Everyone needs to feel loved and cherished, it's equally as bad if you're not talking about things you have already done together or past dates. If he isn't interested in making plans to see you and you're always looking forward to the next time you see him, it's an issue."
5. Don’t let it get boring
Getting bored is something that will happen in every relationship. It is inevitable and of course, in a long distance case, it is even worse when you are not able to meet your significant other. It will be bundled to call every single day do the normal greeting! Sometimes you just feel like you cannot keep up with it anymore and it is not worth it! James Preece says: "When you are both just going through the notions, there is no intimacy. Love can't ever be enough, loads of things are connected to it. You can love each other but you are only as good as your current relationship."
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6. Tiny little things
The relationship is all about how your partner cares about things so little and tiny that others do not care about much. They do not even know! As tiny as how you would like to have your breakfast, or how you are not a morning person (he may not be the only one who knows this). James says: "Go with your heart and your mind. A relationship is based on trust and reassurance, when calls become shorter and shorter and he stops sending you little presents [or behaving like he used to], the reassurance fades."
With the relationship getting out of the honeymoon phase comes the time when you are going to have shorter calls! There no longer do sleepless nights exist because things start getting real! However, what is important is knowing for a fact that if someone wants something, he will do anything to get that! "The way to sustain a long distance relationship is through regular contact. If someone becomes less available or doesn't want to speak as long", says James Preece.
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Trust is the pillar of any relationships and in a long distance, one is all you need to have because imagine for a second what can possibly happen if there is no trust and the couple never meet! Of course, things will get out of control before it even starts. James Preece says: "There is a fine line between the two. The most important thing is trust, people can have bad days so you should give him space for a few days but also, if there is no jealousy when you're going out where there will be other men then that's a sign your partner isn't caring anymore."
"Creates an imbalance, especially is one person is expecting more than the other. You should always give someone a chance but you need to think If you want this in the future."
Despite all this, we need to know that relationship is compromise and devotion and if you are not ready for another, you cannot expect to have a fine life with your partner.
If you want for the relationship to work with all your heart, it will. All you need is some effort!
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