What you should take into account when saying 'I love you' for the first time
A woman who says it first? You may wonder if you should tell him those magical words first as you can’t wait to do it. But on the other hand, you think that it’s more traditional when a guy makes this decision more quickly. So you wait and wait and start to fear that maybe he doesn’t return your love? Don’t freak out and say that’s inappropriate to do it first or too awkward or that you are just too shy. If you still hesitate and find it a big dilemma then this article may help you achieve your goal without a necessary stress or uncertainty. Here’s the plan for you!
Take your time
It’s always better to wait a little bit longer than express such serious words on the first date. So if they mean a lot to you and you don’t say ‘I love you’ to anything that is cute and pretty then prepare for this memorable occasion. Don't do it too quickly! If you date each other just for a couple of days then it’s probably more like a fascinating lust than true love. Additionally, if you say it too soon, he may freak out and you will never see him again. So take your time and get to know your partner more before you make this decision.
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If you don’t feel it then don’t say it. That should be done only when you start thinking about your partner seriously and when you plan to continue your relationship. You may have the wrong conviction that when two people date each other and spend time kissing or hugging then those words need to be expressed to let him know that you are interested as soon as possible. The truth is that if you still have any doubts and don’t consider him as a long-term partner than you can postpone it to some other occasion that will hopefully come.
I can do that!
This is the main reason why are certain about your feelings but still wait to let him do it first. In this case, you are probably a kind of a traditionalist and a dreamer who thinks that men should pick up girls, ask them out, start flirting and say ‘I love you’. However, it’s completely ok for girls to be the first one to say it. You don’t lose your femininity and delicacy! You show him your confidence and bravery and that you care about him so much that you want him to be an inseparable part of your life.
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Show it first
Yes, it may be a very awkward situation, especially if you are a little bit shy and insecure. So it may be easier for you to show your affection first and then, depending on how he reacts, you can continue with telling him that you truly love him. Don’t hesitate to show him your love with caring gestures, looking him in the eye, maintaining close contact with him and of course hugging a lot. Thanks to that you kind of ‘warm up’ the whole situation and prepare him for what you are going to do.
Ok, so you’ve made the decision and you are also 100% sure that this is the right guy. But what if he doesn’t feel the same? Fortunately, there are signs that can help you read his mind and determine if he also returns your feelings. So before you say ‘I love you’ try to feel him out and observe his behavior. Especially pay attention to how he acts both when you’re alone and when you’re with your friends. If he is eager to introduce you to his friends or family then that’s a good sign and also a green light for your plans.
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Place and time
Right time and right place - these are crucial things. If you want to make it special then don’t do this on any random occasion when you are not prepared. It’s always better to say 'I love you' when you are on some romantic date or you have lots of intimacy and privacy at home than when you are completely drunk after the party. Also, never do that on the phone, at least for the first time. In this case, you wouldn’t even see his reaction so he could fake it or think that you are dishonest.
Any way is good
It may be accompanied by a candlelit dinner or done on your normal date. You don’t have to put special clothes and buy him fancy gifts. For him, the honest message will count and have a deep meaning. However, you can always take advantage of your creativity and for example, bake him some cake with a big heart or make a toast with ketchup ‘I love you’. If you like singing and he often listens to your performance then maybe a love song could be something that will show him your feelings in the most meaningful way?
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Make it simple and honest. You don’t have to justify why you started to feel what you feel. And don’t treat it as a big exam that makes you nervous and awkward. If you do it for the first time, then it’s understandable that you feel strong emotions and your heart is beating so loud that he will probably hear it. It’s easy for others to say ‘Just relax and don’t worry’ but if you really care about your partner you will be completely stressed out and puzzled. That's completely normal.
Ok, you finally did it! Congratulations! But… what if he didn’t say it back? You may feel disappointed and confused and still not know what he really feels. But your efforts were not useless! Maybe he just needs more time? Or maybe he is not used to saying this and prefers showing it with his gestures instead? If he doesn’t freak out, is still interested in continuing this relationship and happy seeing your face whenever you meet, then you don’t have to worry. You love goes in a right direction and in some time you will also hear ‘I love you’.