How to find a partner in real life
It seems easier to sign up for some dating site and look for a date there. There are also a lot of social networking sites that make it easier for you to find a potential partner. Do you know that 38 percent of Americans who are single prefer online dating to real meetings? They probably think it’s an easier and faster option but in reality, it often leads to disappointment. Well, you may feel more comfortable to click and write on Tinder while lying on your bed but maybe it's not that beneficial for you?
It’s time to get up and look for your date in real life! Do you find it difficult and frustrating? If yes, then eight professional matchmakers (they arrange meetings so that two potential partners can meet) will give you useful advice. You don’t have to delete your profile at the dating site. Just take advantage of offline meetings and spontaneous encounters more often. Who knows, maybe your love is lurking at the corner?
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Your social circle
Well, the truth is sad - you won’t find your true love while sitting alone in your bedroom. You need to take the matters into your own hands! First of all, expand your social circle. Find various meetings, events, activities where you can meet a lot of new people. You need to have this intention to be open-minded, talkative and smiling. Show others that you want to get to know them and don’t be afraid to ask questions. If you just start asking then the conversation will turn out to be more engaging and interesting. Good beginning! "Smile, make eye contact and be willing to say hi to people you are attracted to."- says Rachel DeAlto, Dating & Relationship Coach.
They can be a perfect connection with other people! Choose the ones that can help you interact with others. You just need to believe that there is your soulmate somewhere there who shares your lifestyle. That person has the same taste, similar preferences and likes spending time just like you. Do your best to discover them! "Make time for your hobbies and interests, but make sure to invest in the interests that get you interacting with people instead of solo-activities, like knitting, reading or swimming." - advises Maria Avgitidis, Founder and Head Matchmaker and Dating Coach, Agape Match.
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Put away your phone
You are walking around and looking down at your phone - does it seem familiar to you? If yes, and you are still single then it’s time for the change! If you put away your phone, look up and notice people then you are more likely to have a chance for interacting with other more often. Also, add your smile, walk straight and confidently - such minor transformations can even change your life! "Wherever you are, you never know where he or she might be. If you are busy texting or on your phone, you won’t get to meet someone." - says Janis Spindel, President, and Founder, Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking.
Would you like to get to know a person who is walking around with serious, gloomy or even angry look on their face? You would be probably too scared to strike up a conversation. You need to control the look on your face and the approach you have to your life and others. "Smile and say hello — friendly people are approachable people. A smile lets off positive energy and is inviting. When you spark a conversation with someone, it opens the door to a possible new relationship." says another matchmaker, Amanda Rose, Founder and CEO, Dating Boutique.
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Don’t be afraid of set-ups.
It is probably more tempting and generally easier to hide behind technology bit it actually leads you to nowhere. It’s more beneficial for you to force yourself and seek for human interactions whenever it’s possible. Be prepared for set-ups from people who know you the most, engage in new things, search and discover, just go out! "Attend social events from your undergraduate or graduate schools. Be physically active; try new things or fitness concepts." - this is what says Brooke Wise, Founder, Wise Matchmaking. Spontaneous, unplanned things may turn out to be the best ones in your life.
"My best tip for meeting and sparking with someone in the real world is to sparkle. It might sound completely corny, but everyone wants to be around someone who has this aura around them that shines and radiates happiness and confidence," claims Amy Andersen, Founder, and CEO, Linx Dating. If you have something special to offer, a lot of confidence and joy that seem to be a contagious and unlimited source of optimism, then you can’t be lonely for too long. If this is not your natural gift, then you can still work to achieve it. People will find it extremely attractive.
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You already know that in order to interact with people you need to put away your phone. This is a golden rule that can help you meet new, amazing people. Secondly, notice people around you, stop ignoring them! If you notice someone whom you find attractive, don’t be afraid of close physical proximity. Make eye contact and don't run away! Another tip? Just… ask a question! "All you want to do is open the door to a conversation to see if you even want to get to know him or her further." - claims Suzanne Oshima, Dating Coach, Dream Bachelor & Bachelorette.
The worst scenario that may happen is to go on a date and not entirely concentrate on your potential partner. If you keep thinking about other men or women and look around while being on a date to spot some other attractive person, then don’t expect the slightest chance for a relationship. You will just end up pursuing your fantasies of your ideal partner, whereas there is no IDEAL person. Everyone should be given the chance. "We’ve been programmed by our iPhones to click next, next, next — we’re becoming less human and more like computers. Often, someone that doesn’t fill all of your checkboxes on paper can turn out to be 'the one.'" says Fay Goldman, Matchmaker, Meaningful Connections.