7 Signs that show that a girl is dating a WRONG man...
Unfortunately, we often try to give all our energy and time in a relationship, only to be compensated with a broken heart and a betrayal of the worst kind. Yes, we are talking about men who may seem charming, but who are really devils camouflaged. For those people, relationships are just an adventure, a hobby and nothing more. In addition, they are so immature that they can never understand the sensitivities that a relationship entails; They live in the moment and do not care about the consequences.
Loving bonds are based on mutual respect, something that is conspicuous by its absence in such an individual. Although you may not realize it immediately, as the thing progresses, you will begin to notice that something is wrong.
1. Rapid progress in the relationship
You just met him a few days ago but you already receive incessant texts about how desperately in love he is with you, and that you are the only person capable of understanding it completely. Remember that they are master manipulators and are only trying to raise your self-esteem.
He has no desire to be with you in the long term, and they just want to fulfill their own twisted sense of self-realization. Once your ulterior motives have been achieved, you will be completely ignored. So, if the relationship seems to be advancing by leaps and bounds, it is cause for concern. Surely there are those who fall in love like that, but you have to stand the test of time.
2. Complains about having a tight schedule
He can never take time to go out with you at an appropriate time; In addition, always provide the relevant excuse to be late: friends, family or work. In any case, if a boy really loves you, he will make you a priority. With which, he will manage to spend more and more time with you. If he starts telling you that he is only available on certain days of the week, or at a specific time of the day, it is a concrete signal that he is juggling more than one romantic relationship.
3. Inconsistency in the relationship
He can be full of love one day and turn his back on you the next. Also, he will try to make you think that you are the one who does not meet his expectations. He manipulates you by telling you that he does everything possible to make things work, but that you are the only one that fails. For him, this relationship is a facade to fulfill his own agenda. It will continually change the rules of engagement and make you doubt your role in the relationship.
You must discuss the matter with total clarity and let him know that you are not an option. You must clarify that if it does not give you the place you deserve, it has no place in your heart. This may involve a certain degree of courage, but it is better to face the problem than to be someone's basic desires.
4. Avoid your friends and family
If a man really loves you, he will try to integrate more and more into his life. Therefore, he will want you to meet his family and close friends and also your parents.
The fact that you never meet anyone of these people strongly suggests that he wants the relationship to remain secret. This is enough evidence to show that, in effect, he loves you as someone with whom he can connect, but not for a long-term link. Otherwise, he would try to do everything possible to get you on board with his family and friends, and will not make excuses for it.
5. Conversations are negative
Every time you give him an idea of where the relationship is going, he will try to change the subject or, if he cannot avoid it, he will give unconvincing answers. However, one could see through them that, after a time, they begin to reveal the true purposes. It is logical to assume that when a person is in a serious relationship, they will want to talk about their interests and hobbies, or how they see the future with you. If he is talking about what he wants in life and you are not in it, it's just that you're just hanging out in a meaningless relationship.
6. Socially different
He will have difficulty showing affection in public while his body language becomes rigid and distant. He can converse in a normal way with you and behave charmingly, but his gestures will be stronger than words. He will not feel comfortable mentioning you as his "girlfriend". He will not admit the seriousness and meaning of the relationship with the general public, and will not even think of going with you to a socially modern and fun place. After all, he does not want to reduce his chances of finding another girl or admitting the fact that he is "busy", because he will want to keep the playing field open.
7. Shows little or no interest in your friends
If a man is in a serious relationship, he will make an effort to know the company that you keep. This can help them get to know you better and strengthen their relationship with you. However, if he only wants you for your body, without the additional baggage of emotional availability and responsibilities, he is likely to remain disinterested. You will not see the relationship as something substantial enough to make an effort in that regard. After all, a fake person only cares what he gets from another person. The interests or happiness of the other does not mean anything to them.
Now, it is time to read about traits that a perfect husband should have according to researchers!
How would you describe your ideal husband? You've been probably thinking about this many times and pictured your mutual, happy life with a big house, garden a few smiling kids. Well, sounds like a fairy tale, doesn’t it? Especially if you add such trait as intelligence, attractiveness, sense of humor and so on… Women can have lots of expectations! But well, you are not the one who is analyzing a perfect husband material. Researchers also decided to check it in practice.
The researchers from the University of Tennessee have proved that when there is a weight difference between a woman and a man then the marriage has a bigger chance to be successful. Also, women should be in a better shape. It doesn’t mean that you should look like Bar Refaeli or Mila Kunis and struggle to be thinner and thinner. The researchers emphasize that success of a given relationship can be influenced by different factors, however, weight difference can sometimes matter.
Sense of humour
According to Christopher J. Wilbur and Lorne Campbell, renowned researchers, women tend to be more interested in ‘sense of humor’ box while surfing the Internet, especially dating websites. It seems that they find men with a sense of humor even more attractive than those are really good-looking. However, the sense of humor is a subjective matter and depends on your personal taste so it’s necessary to look for a guy whose jokes are rather funny for you than just annoying.
It’s normal that there are more and less intelligent people but according to Finnish researchers, women should opt for those more intelligent in order to have a joyful marriage. Why? It seems that smart partners are less likely to...betray their partners! The financial matter also seems to count as, after all, those more intelligent are also more resourceful and are able to earn a big amount of money. The research has been conducted among 200 000 men from the age of 18 to 45 and despite the fact that many more factors were taken into account, it seems that being smart is the winner among them.
It’s quite obvious that women want guys who can offer them support. One of the professors from the University of California, Shelly Gable has discovered something more! It turns out that those men who are always by their wives sides, no matter if there are problems or there are good times, are most desired by women. Especially, if their male partners don’t feel offended when their girlfriends achieve more successes in their lives. Those who offer their support only in case of problems can be a worse husband material, according to researchers.
He allows you to work
Women become more independent and resourceful nowadays, that’s for sure. That’s why they don’t want partners who will treat them only as housewives. A modern woman wants to be a good wife and mother but also dream about a successful job that will make her appreciated. Guys who don’t feel the need to accept this fact cannot be good husband materials. Scientists have proved that working women who can rely on their partners think about the divorce less often and that’s why such marriage is more prosperous.
Money - really so important?
Women often dream of a man who is rich and resourceful. However, when they start the relationship, it turns out that wealth is not the most important factor. According to the scientists from Brigham Young University, the relationships that are not dominated by financial matters and conversations about money, have more chances to succeed. If money is not their priority then they appear to be more sensitive and eager to compromise.
Did you have a carefree and generally happy childhood? If yes, then you also have a bigger chance to succeed as an adult and have more fortunate marriage than those experience a lot of hardship while being a kid. At least that’s what scientists from Cambridge are saying. Also, when your boyfriend tells you a lot of funny stories from his childhood and how happy he was as a little boy then your relationship has more chances to thrive and succeed. It’s good to appreciate what we had in past so encourage your boyfriend to tell about all his happy moments from the childhood. You will benefit from that!
Emotions - show them or not?
Most women say that they want a courageous, strong and fearful man who will protect them from any dangers. That’s true, but women are also empathic and take into account others’ emotions. What do researchers say about this? Dr. John Gottman, an American professor, have discovered that couples in which men are responsive and can also show their emotions instead of hiding them, by all means, have a bigger chance to develop a happy and long-term relationship with less risk to get divorced in the future.
Shared flat - when?
Are you only 18 or 19 and want to move to your partner? Well, according to scientists from The University of North Carolina, you should wait a little bit more. It turns out that couples who decided to live together at a very young age have a bigger chance to divorce. There is a logical explanation for that - those people can be still too immature and unwise, that's why you may end up having serious conflicts and getting divorced. If you wait 4-5 years and the decision is seriously studied then your relationship can be also more successful.