Simple rules for an enviable relationship!
These days having a relationship that is enviable and also at the same time long lasting is something that most people fail to fulfill. A lot of people, right when they get out of the honeymoon phase of their relationship, they forget that relationship means hard work and stop making any effort! Taking care of your relationship, you should introduce customs to it, or the rituals that will unite the relationship, bring a breath of freshness into it and will be a constant element that each of you will be impatiently waiting for. Here we come with a list of tips that make your relationship enviable!
While rectifying is wise and knowing how to forgive is a great added value, asking for forgiveness when the situation requires it is equivalent to having a very big heart in times of inflated egos. However, apologies seem to have become so superficial, that these two words sometimes mean nothing. You really need to have a deep heart to know how to accept your mistakes and apologize, without thinking for a second that, just because you two are in a relationship, the apologies are a mere formality. Apologize but don’t ask for one.
Know your limit
Knowing where you are standing, who you are, and where you are going to in your relationship with that person is something that needs to be clear in the relationship for the both of you to be able to communicate easier. When you know the limits, you do not push too hard that at the end of the day you will be broken hearted or he will think about leaving you! Do not go with the flow too much because it will get out of control.
In a relationship, it is easy to get tired in bed and things can really fast start turning into routines and for you not to be on this path, you need to be the one who initiates even if you do not feel like it especially when you feel distant in bed. Even he might be someone who is shy, who feels like you are having your guards up and that is why he is not initiating. You need to make sure that you are handling every single part of your relationship in the best way possible. It is a necessity!
Don’t bring your book, tablet, magazine, phone or anything else in the bed. At first, it might feel a little be awkward as you feel like there is nothing to do. You would be lying there with your partner without exchanging a single word but it will change. It all need sometimes. It is only a matter of time when you start talking to another which will make your communication easier.
There always is the need of thrill and excitement in a relationship for that spark to remain. You might have forgotten all about romantic gestures but now it is the right time to start reviewing them. You don’t need to go for something huge, tiny surprises sometimes mean way more than big surprises. As you start the wave, your partner will catch up with you and you will get a little bit of the spark back.
Remember the first days of your relationship how you were so curious to know a lot more about each other? To get to know what your partner likes, what their flaws are so that you can love them even for those tiny flaws they have? You can do the same just now. Even reminiscing might help you get what you want in your relationship back. Just try to dig in deeper and remind each other why you chose one another in the first place.
Bring romance back
Now that you have followed all the stages above, romance has found its way back to your life. Make sure that you never will take it for granted anymore. Plan surprises and date outside. Trip and getaways. Whatever it takes to maintain the love and spark you reignited with so much effort. Make your lifetime goal to plant a smile on your partner’s face.
The biggest mistake you can make is to give up and let it all be because that is the end of the relationship! You need to start making time for each other and communicating with one another. Don’t try to hide the truth just because you are afraid that it will cause a fight. Learn how to express how you feel without any anger and your partner will for sure understand you. This could be the most excruciating step but if fixing the relationship is what you want, this is a must.
No-phone zone or in fact, no technology zone! Make time for only the two of you with no electronic devices in between! Wendy Walsh says: "If you haven't put your family and your relationship on a technology diet yet, this is the year to do it. Nothing is killing communication faster right now than guys staring at their Phones while girls are trying to talk to them at the dinner table, or vice versa. Otherwise, you won't give each other your full attention, and it's easy to become annoyed or feel disconnected."
Wendy Walsh, a clinical psychologist, says: "Long-term couples don't tough enough. When we touch—especially skin-to-skin—we get a little rush of the brain chemicals that help trigger those loving feelings. Most married couples hug for three seconds or less. So I advise them, two to three times a day, to stop what they're doing and hold a long, calm embrace. It can change your biochemistry, and you'll begin to bond again." Based on the research, a hug that lasts 20 seconds can release a significantly higher amount of oxytocin which helps social bonding.
People who are happy with each other, even involuntarily are looking for physical contact with each other. You will meet them after holding hands or embracing one another. Even if it is a subtle caress, they do not forget to have that not only in the time when they feel like their partner is in need of support but even when the partner is happy. Like when they are laughing together you can see one of the parties holding the hand of the other even tighter. That, right there, is happiness. Or even the naked Sunday rule! Something intimate for you, what form will take depends on you. You do not have to choose that day of the week, but then it's the easiest time to go.