How to get your guy emotionally attached to you!
A study from Wayne State University, Michigan, concluded that "Men fall in love faster than women." However, we have always been concerned about the supposed simplicity of the male. People always say men fall for what they see so if it is not only physical what else is there? Well, today we tell you everything you need to know to drive the man of your dreams crazy. How to make him emotionally attached to you so that you are sure he will always and forever be with you!
Make him emotionally attached to you!
You need to be emotionally connected if you want to keep him. He should feel that it's worth investing in this relationship. You can't force him to be with you and you shouldn't be like that desperate woman who can't live without you. The worst thing that you can do is to blackmail him, for example, by saying that you won't survive without him and that you may do some harm to yourself if he leaves you. This way he might think that you are a crazy woman and it's better not to mess up with you.
Talk to him
Effective communication is the basis of every relationship. The relationship in which you somehow function barely talking to each other doesn't have a chance to survive. sooner or later, one of you will leave. If you don't share many subjects and talking to each other is difficult because you have to struggle to find something to discuss then you'd better separate. When you come back home, don't go straight to your bed to read a book, instead ask him how was his day, how he feels, what he would like to do on the weekend.
Be supportive of him
We all appreciate people who always spare a few words to console us, to give some advice and just to be around us when we need them. Whether he has problems, serious dilemmas or just needs a few tips, you should be there for him. Who would leave a person who is a big support for good and bad days? If you do your best to help him and never ignore his problems then he will be really attached to you. Sometimes you even don't have to give him tips, just be around.
Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable around him
Well, at the beginning of your relationship it may be quite hard to open up and show your emotions. You may struggle to hide your tears and you may be afraid to say "I love you". However, if you want to maintain a happy relationship, then you can't hide your feelings and your sensitive side. He should see you just the way you are, the real you. And the same with him, encourage him to express his emotions, thoughts even doubts. Be honest and vulnerable with each other.
Think about your arguments
The truth is that some couples argue too much. their relationships are like a constant battle when they struggle to win. Just think about it and decide if you want to be rivals, enemies or loving partners? Ok, maybe he forgot to buy milk or pay that electricity bill but you also make mistakes! Instead of shouting at him or blaming for something, be more understanding. This will create a healthy atmosphere in your relationship and he will get more attached. And this is your goal!
Make him feel safe to be vulnerable
It's not that only men should make their girlfriends feel safe. Women also need to be protective and caring in order to maintain a satisfying relationship. Men have their own weaknesses and may feel insecure especially if this is their first relationship. How can you make them feel safe? First of all, pay him compliments! Instead of just thinking that you have a gorgeous man who is so witty and has a great taste in fashion, say it aloud! He will immediately feel better.
Show your gratitude
Don't take everything for granted. He may be that generous type of guy who will always give you a lift, buy your favorite sweets and understand when you need some nights out with your own friends. But do you thank him for that? Do you say that you appreciate his generosity? If you just assume that this is what you ought to be given and rarely say thank you then he may fee simply used and necessary only when you need him.
People generally prefer those who are not afraid of spontaneity. You don't have to plan your dates and actually every minute of your meeting. you don't have to plan what you will do, where you will go. This is so boring! Instead, make surprises and don't always tell him where you'll go. Be mysterious, cheerful and carefree. Some people say that the best things that happen in life are those you didn't plan. So don't think too much and analyze all the details, just go with the flow.
Do not play games with his heart
He is not a toy and your relationship is not a game. If you treat people seriously you won't be treated the same way. If you often have doubts and can't see your future together then you'd better tell him that. Instead of sweeping the problem under the carpet and organizing your holidays, you should be honest with him. You may not plan your future with him but he may be already attached to you thinking about the proposal! You don't want to hurt him, do you?
Intimacy is another crucial thing. If your relationship lacks intimacy then you are more like friends than affectionate partners. If you cringe at the mere thought of kissing him or making love then he is probably not for you. But if you are turned on whenever you see him then don't hold up your feelings. Intimacy can make you closer. Even if you're not married yet and you decided to wait with going to bed until marriage, you should still kiss, cuddle and be close to each other.
Accept him the way that he is
We'll tell you this straightforward. If you can't accept him and always pay attention to some of his flaws, this won't work. If you want to change him to suit your preferences then it won't work. either you need to leave him in this case or change your perspective and show your acceptance. The true love is only then when two partners accept them they way they are. You are both full of imperfections but you don't care! Because love is stronger!
Love him for who he is
For some reason, you fell in love with him and you are still in this relationship. So you need to accept him for who he is and what he does. You shouldn't ridicule his appearance, his job, his background. Well, that would actually mean a toxic relationship... Instead, always show him how proud you are of him and that you appreciate the fact that he has chosen you as his partner. If he treats you well and you feel comfortable in this relationship, then show him more respect as well.
Gain his trust
At the beginning of every relationship, there may be a problem with trust. You don't know each other so well and you don't know many details of your past and previous partners. However, trust doesn't just come without any effort. You need to gain it by showing him that you are faithful and none else counts more than him. Also, show him that you are ready to make some sacrificing, for example, if necessary you would move to another place with him or you would patiently wait for him when he's abroad for a few weeks.
Make him smile
You should feel so comfortable in a relationship that smiling and laughing happen on the daily basis. You know what makes him smile and what jokes he loves. You know how to cheer him up when he has a bad day and how to help him relax after a tiring day. If you do have this knowledge, then don't hesitate to use it. He wouldn't leave a relationship in which there is a lot of fun, laughter, and bliss so it's a great idea to make him more attached.
Use mirror effect at times
You are generally different, unique individuals but as you are in one relationship together, with time you surely get more similar in some aspects. And that's totally ok! Make your laughter contagious, mimic his behavior, learn something new from him and you will see that it can only get you closer. Everyone wants to have a soul mate, a person who is just like you and with who you can easily get along and understand each other. It's worth trying!
Hold your gaze
Men can't resist seductive women and all women have their own playful tricks how to be mischevious and seductive. You can even flirt with him only by holding your gaze and showing him this way your mysterious, wild side. And if apart from this, you are a kind, caring partner with whom he's never bored then your relationship won't fade away so easily. This is one of the simplest ways to keep the spark in every relationship. Just don't be too shy and reserved!
Show him how unique you are
He surely doesn't want to have an unkempt, complaining woman who would ideally sit in front of her laptop the whole day. Men love to pursue mysterious, interesting women who are aware of their high value. That's why it means you should invest in you your skills and appearance, find some passion and generally be open-minded. He also doesn't want a partner who runs away from people and hates going out. So don't shy away if you want to keep him!
Try not to be so negative
Believe it or not, women who are grumpy and constantly in a bad mood can't be found attractive. they simply make guys run away from them! Well, you might have been optimistic and cheerful at the beginning of the relationship and now you show your gloomy part of yourself. If yes, then don't expect the guy to be happy with you. You should be for him like a bright sun that hovers over the shadows of his life! This way he may feel more attached and this is what you obviously want!
Set mutual goals
If you have similar expectations and plans for the future then this relationship has a chance to thrive. Setting the goals and discussing them can make you more attached. It means you have a similar purpose in life and that you already cannot imagine the future without your partner. Well, you shouldn't talk about such stuff as kids and marriage just at the beginning of your relationship but if you are together for a few years and you don't even know his preferences as to the future then it's not a good sign.