Signs indicating you are chasing someone who doesn’t want you
Sometimes it just happens that however you try, do your best and put all your energy to chase your dream guy, he remains indifferent and reserved. The reasons for such behavior may be different. He has a girlfriend, doesn't like you or is not ready for a relationship. Your efforts and energy may be all wasted if he is that guy who is impossible to hunt. At least for you or for now. So in order to save up your valuable time, you’d better check out this article and find out if you should give up and move on or not. Continue reading!
You can no longer rely on him. It’s easier for you to call a taxi than ask him for help, as you know that he will have lots of excuses. He is annoyed when you ask him even for the slightest thing to do, e.g. to get your things back from the laundry on his way back from work. If he truly loved you it wouldn’t be a big problem. On the contrary, he would do it with pleasure and enthusiasm. So maybe he doesn’t care about you anymore and although once you were his priority, now you don’t mean for him too much…
When love fades away, men start to be more annoyed. It may be hard to distinguish his depressive mood connected with problems at work from his dissatisfaction with your relationship. When you’re together, he has a headache, is irritated when you speak too loud or distract him from other minor things. He doesn’t pay you compliments any longer and now the happiest day is that when you don’t quarrel. Some time ago he didn’t pay attention to your moodiness or some mistakes and now he faults you for anything you do wrong. If this continues for a long time, then it’s obvious he doesn’t love you anymore.
He avoids you as much as he can. He comes back home from work late, spends more time with his friends in the pub and when he is back, he goes straight to bed. If he loved you, he would miss you at work, text you some witty messages or plan some romantic dates. So when it seems that his friends spend more time with him and know better what’s going on in his life then be careful! That may be the sign that he is only interested in your dinner and happy when his clothes are clean and ironed but where is the love? It probably has gone away.
He doesn’t want it?!
Men love intimacy. Kissing, hugging, se*- that’s what is probably equally important for them as sleeping or food. They rarely have such excuses as women who tend to say that they have a headache, period, or just don’t want it because of their hormones. So when he avoids making love then it’s too suspicious to be normal. Especially, when it lasts for a long time as sometimes he may be just tired or stressed. If it continues, then it’s possible that he has a lover and doesn’t need your closeness anymore.
When a man loves his girlfriend then appreciates her efforts, admires her passions and pays compliments. When his feelings cannot be returned anymore than he may be more offensive and disrespectful. Literally, he transforms into a strict critic who will highlight all your bad sides, fears and diminish your achievements. This is a very disturbing sign and you cannot allow him to decrease your self-esteem or make you sad. He doesn’t have to approve of your every decision but shouldn't have such a cruel attitude towards you.
Some time ago you couldn’t survive even a minute without lots of text messages talking about anything, just to have contact with each other. Now he doesn’t care what’s happening in your life. When you are on the trip with your friends, he doesn’t ask you how is the journey, how you feel or if you’re safe. He may text you to ask if you bought a milk or his favorite newspaper but those messages are deprived of any flirtations or loving emotions. He treats it as the necessary evil just to have some benefit from that like something you will do for him when he reminds you of it. And sometimes he even doesn’t reply to your messages or it takes a long time to do it. It seems that he is no longer crazy in love...
A few years ago he would have been so angry if you had told him that you will meet your friend (a man) just to have a coffee in a bar. A man who loves is always jealous of his girlfriend. He will be suspicious when you send lots of text messages and smile at them when you’re together in a bed. Now he is indifferent seeing lots of men around you who are eager to flirt with you. This is a very obvious sign telling you that you are free to go to another man as he visibly lost interest in you.
You walk on the street and he observes other girls commenting on their looks, how beautiful they are, what great clothes they were? This way he suggests that you are less pretty, unkempt and generally less attractive. If he compares you to other girls then it means that he doesn't accept just who you are. And if he doesn’t accept you then he may no longer love you or even never truly loved you. A caring partner will always try to make his girlfriend feel beautiful and appreciated. If it’s different, then his affection may not be true.
A loving couple will always make some plans for their mutual future. Such partners are sure that they can share those future moments together. So when you talk about your next holidays or engagement or what wedding dress you dream about and he is bored, not interested or reluctant to discuss such things, then it’s a bad sign. And if you talk about your goals, dreams, plans and he avoids using ‘we’ and prefers talking about himself then not only does he seem too selfish but also doesn't want to invite you to his life in the future.
No time for you
Do you get excited for a week, planning to go to the movies, go on a trip, or organizing a romantic dinner with your better half and what you get in return is a couple of difficult excuses to assimilate? Do you prefer to spend your free time in the company of other people, or justify your constant absence with "a lot of work" or "lack of desire" without worrying about you? All this usually means that you have ceased to be a priority for your partner and, in reality, he/she is looking for a way out of the relationship.
He does not take you into account
Another characteristic that should alert you is that your partner begins to organize his short-term plans without you. If you have noticed that he always tries to maintain a certain distance between you and is capable of doing anything to avoid having to share his time, hobbies and feelings with you, do not fool yourself. People who love each other, miss each other, and crave the presence (physical and emotional) of another person in their life. If this case has nothing to do with your situation, start thinking if it is worthwhile to maintain a relationship like this.
Does not like physical contact with you
This is one of the most obvious signs that may exist in this regard. If in the past your partner took every opportunity to touch you, caress you or show affection in a bodily way, and now he does not do it even when circumstances are more than favorable, maybe you should start thinking about separating yourself. Everyone loves to hug and kiss their boyfriends and girlfriends, but when the feelings are gone, the desire to show love disappears.
Is not interested in you
Before he spent a lot of time talking with you, exchanging stories, opinions, and points of view, and now he does not? Let's be honest: if your partner changed their attitude towards this element of your relationship and it does not seem to be anything temporary, you can expect the worst. When you love your spouse, they show interest to hear their stories, problems, etc., it is something natural, and when people stop loving, it is exactly the opposite. Each one begins to live a life of their own, without worrying too much about the other.
Does not care about your achievements
Even if you had won a Nobel Prize, climbed Mount Everest or invented formula of eternal youth, if your supposed other half does not love you anymore, your achievements will not impress him. In fact, it is even very likely that his reaction to this will surprise you in an unpleasant way ... No matter how much you need it, you will not hear that he feels proud of you, nor will he begin to flatter you. It hurts to accept it, but it's going to be as if you were two strange people and not a real couple.
Does not make references to the future
Well, yes, you can do that, although you will never include them in the real future. If talking to your man (or woman) dodges the issues that have to do with the two as a couple, and begins to hesitate as soon as you ask a question related to them, better ends this relationship as soon as possible. When the lack of love enters the game, both men and women prefer to keep quiet instead of letting go when making long-term plans. Really, it's worth being aware of that.
Does not stop fighting with you
If conversations with your loved one do not get anywhere, or quickly turn into arguments, this means that the union of two people is in danger. Although at the beginning all couples behave like two lovebirds and think that this state will last forever, in many cases the time comes when they can no longer bear it and create big fights without having a good reason. In other words: if everything you say, do or show irritates him, it is very likely that what was between the two, has come to an end.
Does not speak to you
Definitely, you do not need to be very outgoing or stand out for ease to get into a conversation, and especially with a person who is important to us. Precisely because of this, the lack of verbal communication between the couple is often a bad omen for the "beginning of the end". If you really want to communicate with your loved one, even time can be a perfect subject to develop ... But if your partner tells you what is right and necessary and only refers to essential issues, it is because you do not feel the same as before.
Disappearance and frequent absence
If your most loved one suddenly disappears from your life and contact with him becomes increasingly difficult, something is definitely going on. A man in love will take advantage of any opportunity to see, hear or communicate with the object of his feelings, so if he has stood you up for more than once, he does not tell you about his plans and it costs you so much to maintain contact with him that you practically do not know anything about his life, be prepared. If you also started seeing new friends, it's because you really do not feel like being with him, either.
As much as some men have an impressive tendency to respond to the messages of their girlfriends after several hours, one always feels when their SMS or emails are ignored or begin to be a nuisance for the other party. If you try hard to write long stories, asking how you are, tell your plans, and in return, you get nothing or receive a message composed of a word, better start to realize that it may be the beginning of the end.