The perfect first date according to matchmakers
Being in a relationship is much more interesting than spending lonely nights on your own and not having a single person to hug. Don't you think that love will come and knock on your door? It's not that easy... So instead of sitting and waiting for the dream fairytale prince, take matters into your own hands. Going on a date can also be pretty annoying and nerve-wracking so in order to make it all work out, w have provided what matchmakers believe to be the right way to act on first dates!
Remember that when you are on a first date, lower your expectations and know that it is ok if you are not attracted to them!
Stefanie Safran, a matchmaker, says: "Attraction is not something that is as "instant" as the movies want you to believe.
If you look at many long-term couples, many will state it took time to warm up and know that this person was right for them.
Instead of going into a first date with the thought of "Is he the one?" or "Is he the guy I see myself attracted to?"
Go in with the attitude of "Is this a guy I can see spending another hour of time with?"
Go into the first date with plans of spending one to two hours with someone, not three to four hours to analyze the situation."
Too many expectations bring so much pressure and you do not want that on the first date!
Heather Kristian Strang, the second matchmaker, says: "First dates are meant to be fun and relaxed, but we often make them stressful and fill them with grandiose expectations.
Take the pressure off of yourself and the other person — you don't have to "figure out" if they are your person on the first date.
Most of the time it takes several dates before we know if this person is long-lasting relationship material.
Many of my clients have wanted to cancel the second or third date with the man who eventually became their husband/long-term partner!
Thankfully they followed my guidance and stayed the course and one of these clients just had her first child with her now husband.
Surrender your expectations and focus on enjoying yourself and truly getting to know the person in front of you."
Do not forget to flirt and keep things light!
Susan Trombetti, the third matchmaker, says: "Don't grill your date about their life and job.
It's not a job interview. Do not put everything out there.
First dates are for flirting and establishing a connection based on this light hearted connection which should leave you wanting to know and learn more about your date.
So many people feel like they are on a job interview. Others lead or ask about the professional qualifications like it matters.
Some talk about all their problems and health issues. Better yet, some clients have talked about people that have shown up with a literal list and ask the questions off it. Ugh! No, this is just plain terrible."